Congratulations for making it this far. You should be so proud of yourself. Are you feeling good? Now that you know who you are and what you want it is time to set some goals. Goal setting is important because it helps you clarify where you are going. What do you really want to do with your life? What would you like to accomplish? Personally I lived my life for my children. My goal was to make sure that they got every opportunity that I could give them. I was a mum from the age of 18, my journey to self discovery began seriously when they all left home. It was really scary because I had been living my life for them for so long I never had to think about myself at all. I could not describe who I was or what was important to me, besides my children. It has been 7 long years of learning more and more about myself. I am evolving all the time and I know now that I will continue to evolve for the rest of my lifetime.
You will learn this for yourself and I know you will find the journey as exciting as I did.
Goals and goal setting are the focus of the next part of your journey. So what is a goal you ask? A goal is desired outcome or end point of a set of actions that you take. Goal setting is when you think about your ideal future and what you need to do to get there. The quote to the right from Fitzhugh Dodson says it beautifully. Who you are and what you do should not be left to chance, whim or fancy. If you are going to set sail on this journey to the life you want, you have to know where you’re sailing to.
Here is another quote by Earl Nightingale that says
“People with goals succeed because they know where they’re going.”
Goals provide direction and focus for your life and it is easier move forward with purpose. Having our ‘end game’ clearly defined can provide the motivation we need when things get hard. Take control and responsibility for what is happening for you.
Goal setting is not important just for providing focus to your journey but also for who you become along the way. Our focus is sharper. Our skill and knowledge acquisition is centred on exactly what we need to get us to where we are going. We learn to allocate our time and resources more efficiently. Your goals should be:
- clear – be specific about what you want
- broached in a positive way – a goal statement should reflect what you aspire to
- challenge you – they should push you just outside your comfort zone and help you focus your learning
- performance focused – they should spotlight what needs to happen. Operational goals
With goal setting there is a process just like everything else in life. The techniques you need use to set your goals are many and varied. The ones that are outlined below are just a few and they are the ones that I like:
- Dreaming without limits / Brainstorming – free idea generation. No boundaries and no judgement.
- Prioritise your goals – Take all your ideas and pick the 10 ideas most important to you.
- Define your ideas more clearly – Take these 10 ideas and make them a bit more specific and flesh them out with a bit more detail
- Make your goals SMART – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time Bound
As with any journey that you take you will work hard. The challenge here is to work smart as well. Make things easy and simple. KISS or keep it simple stupid is important for anything you do. The easier you make the process the more likely you are to make it to the end so that you achieve success. With every success your motivation grows and your energy is replenished for the next stage.