So my name is Taitimu Heke-Sellars. My husband and I live in Tauranga, New Zealand with our dog (Finn) and two cats. I am a mother of 4 wonderful children and 10 amazing grandchildren. I was raised as Māori but have Irish and French ancestry as well. I had a really good up bringing, with parents who loved me and brothers who taught me everything I know. I grew up surrounded by family and going to school with my cousins. I never questioned any of the things that made up my young life.
For 25 years I worked in schools as a Business Manager / Administrator. I worked in immersion Māori schools because that is where my passion is. I truly believe that an education founded in Māori language and culture is the only way that our kids can be support properly. Knowing who they are, their language and culture centres them and they are stronger. This system taught me that excellence in all that we do is the only way to seriously help our kids reach their full potential. To be the best example of who we want them to be.
I learnt later in life that I had real issues with self esteem. I did not think I was good at anything, every mistake I had made in my life seemed to hang over me and I really believed that I wasn’t good enough. Being brought up in an era where children were seen and not heard, where you dare not have an opinion that did not match everyone elses and conformity was the expectation had a devastating effect on me. I vowed that my children would not feel this way if I had anything to say about it.
One of the things that I have come to understand is that each of us is born knowing what we are here for. Our upbringing and all of the experiences that this entails distracts us and our journey is about remembering who we really are and what we are here for. I know how hard seeing who you really are can be. To peel back the layers of years of conditioning and history to unveil who you are destined to be. It is hard work to be honest with yourself and finally take control and responsibility for all that you are, and all that you potentially can be.
Over the last 3 years I moved home, to Tauranga, and have really struggled to feel comfortable, like this is where I should be. So in 2016 I resigned and decided to do something else. I wanted to take some time for myself. To find something that inspired me and made me excited. I want to feel that sense of anticipation and the thrill you get when you do something you absolutely love.
One Life by Design is this for me. A life for me, designed by me and reflecting all of the things that I hold most dear.
Starting this website was a way for me to share my journey, my learning with other people. So for those of us who are feeling
- Like something is missing
This is for all of you, for all of us in the end. This is the start of something truly amazing and inspiring. You deserve the best of everything. You owe it to yourself to live a life filled with wonder, to know that there is no where in the world you would rather be and nothing in the world you would rather be doing. To wake up every day excited about what is ahead of you. To know that your creation is at the centre of what you will be doing today.
Thank you for taking this journey with me, for sharing with the rest of us and for helping us become who we were destined to be. To my cousin Debbie, you know who you are, thank you for asking the hard questions and expecting my best, for starting me on this road and propping me up when I would have given up.
Much love people …… and as Master Yoda from Star Wars says “there is not try, there is do or do not.” You can do this.